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  Are you living out some of your dreams yet?

  by LyinEyes in

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  i have been up watching saturday night fever, made in the year 1977. funny thing i noticed , the club that the tony(john travolta) dances at is called 2001 odessey.

  i thought god , i was 10 or 11 when that movie came out.

  i wanted to see it so bad, but good jw's would never see such a movie, the disco era right.

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  individuals wife

  I am certainly living out my dream, at long last I am at university studying nursing (what a coincidence! By the way, go for it - it is brilliant!!).

  I just wish I had done it years ago instead of wasting so much time knocking on peoples doors and annoying the hell out of them, at least now I feel I am doing some real good. The only good thing the JWs ever did for me was teach me to have confidence in talking with strangers, a necessity in nursing.

  I have even looked after a JW in hospital who was aware of who I was and that I had disassociated myself, at first she wouldn't even make eye contact, would totally ignore my attempts to care for her and would walk away from me at every opportunity. It didn't make her look very good in front of the other staff and patients. She was in the hospital for a couple of weeks and during that time I only encountered one JW visitor in all that time, how is that for a loving congregation, only one small bunch of garden flowers and no cards from the whole of the congregation. How loving is that? Anyway, by the end of the fortnight I think she had realised that I wasn't the evil person that she imagined me to be and was actually starting to have conversations with me and would smile, no mention of our connection of course. Hopefully I proved to her that there is life beyond the organisation and that leaving does not necessarily turn you into their stereotypical image of an 'evil apostate'.

  Good luck with your future plans!
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  Response To My DA Letter

  by LB in

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  it appears some have already received my da letter .

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.aspx?id=39417&site=3&page=1.

  i received a couple of e-mails from those i sent it to and frank, the star of my da letter called and left a message on my recorder.

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  individuals wife

  Congratulations! I am now coming up towards my 2nd anniversary of being free and it does feel good. I am now getting to the point where I don't spend half of my waking day thinking about being a witness, it really feels that I have got my life back. I highly recommend it!!

  And I am still waiting for them to contact me....... 2 years.... you think they would have phoned or something by now wouldn't you, cowards or what?!?!
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  WT literature in the trash can

  by Nordic in

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  2. experiences

  i am born in the truth.now i am 40 years old and have thrown all my wt literature in the trash can.i am ashamed that i have been in the watchtower orginazation and in my prayer to jehovah i have said that i only belong to him.

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  individuals wife

  Ceremonial incineration? Sounds like my experience! I had a big bonfire and burnt the lot (almost - kept a few for future reference and as a reminder never to become involved again). For me the satisfaction of seeing them go up in smoke was worth more than anybody would be willing to pay me for them!
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  HAPPINESS----Do You NOW Have It???

  by minimus in

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  since you have been made aware of all the wrongness of watchtower, do you feel happier,more bitter or more apathetic?

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  individuals wife

  I honestly thought I was happy as a Witness, I had more than enough friends for every day of the week, a relatively good social life, a pretty substantial list of return visits, a Bible study who hung on my every word, the respect of the elders and the love of all the JW kids who all called me Auntie. I did as I was told and enjoyed the praise and pats on the back. I enjoyed doing items on the platform and was doing well in the school.

  Then as many here have experienced - I had doubts about some things, some people, some behaviour that was being overlooked, one rule for some, another rule for others. I asked questions. I didn't like the answers, or the attitude that came with those answers. I left. Apparently it caused a great stir in the congregation and a lot of people were very disturbed by it and confused.

  I then started to make a life for myself, a life I could be proud of, a life that was based on really helping people, not filling their heads with false hopes. And now I know what true happiness is. Giving without expecting any reward at the end of it. Helping people with no hidden agendas and motives. Listening and talking to people without trying to find a way to bring the organisation into the conversation. Life is no longer about filling in time sheets and reports, handing in slips on time, trying to prove to other people that you are worthy. Instead of doing good deeds just to make a good witness, good deeds can now be done just for the sake of making your heart glad, you are no longer accountable to the society. No one is judging you.

  I am sad that so many of my old friends can still be blinded by the promises and the threats of the organisation but happy to be free myself, there is little that I can do as a disassociated person to reach out to them but hopefully through my example and my blatent happiness (always walking around with my head held high and a smile on my face!) I have at least shown them that there is indeed a happy life available to them outside of the confines of the organisation.
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  Biggest Apostate Gathering? More Pics & Names!

  by Englishman in

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  it's back to the bbq again.

  i think that this pic has more jw-d posters present than any seen so far.

  some blurring was requested!.

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  individuals wife

  I wanted to be one of those blurry heads! Sorry we couldnt make it this time around, we will have no excuse for next year as we now only live a few miles down the road! Hope you all had a great time. (Feeling very jealous here....)
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  DA letter supplementary - will this finally do it?

  by alliwannadoislive in

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  2. friends

  i da'd back in february and have been receiving fortnightly attempts to visit me ever since - two weeks ago i received a note through my door with a copy of a letter stating the "truth" from the bethel ... i can't leave it at that, so this is what i mailed today ... i hope i haven't made any big mistakes in it - my thanks to www.randytv.com for helping me with the sources i used

  dear xxxxx,

  thank you for your letter of xx july and copy of the letter from the london bethel.

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  individuals wife

  How come they didn't leave you alone after you da'd? They did with me. No phone call to verify it was a letter I had written myself, no attempt to argue against the points in my letter, no visits at home, no nothing. OK, I wanted to leave and nothing would have made me go back but I was a bit put out that no-one thought I was worth even the slightest effort to turn me back. My letter nearly two years ago was the last contact I ever had with them.
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  BRITISH MP CALLS FOR GOV. INQUIRY into abuse

  by hawkaw in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  bill bowen just emailed this to me and i wasn't too sure if had been posted.

  this is very significant.

  if anyone has helen's email or the email of the minister she wrote too asking for the enquiry, please post them.. hawk.

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  individuals wife

  Just bringing this back up top - what a brilliant idea! And how about lobbying organisations like the NSPCC (National Society for the Protection of Children) and local social services groups who are concerned with the prevention of child cruelty and abuse, they would be interested in this.
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  UNITED KINGDOM POSTERS PLEASE READ.

  by Englishman in

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  2. friends

  if you want to take part in a worth-while and incognito activity for about 3 hours, the one that alan f has referred to, please contact myself or angharad.

  it may be good to talk on the phone also.

  either email me with your number or request mine via email.

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  individuals wife

  What did I miss? What did I miss? Honestly, I go up in the attic for a few days to sort out boxes and I miss something. Can someone email to let me know what this is all about and what I can do to get involved!
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  British XJW's! Please say hello!!

  by Fe2O3Girl in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i live in northwest england, i have been out of th borg for 8 years.

  give me a wave, let me know i am not the only xjw in britain!

  cheers!

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  individuals wife

  Helllllooooooo! And welcome!
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  So Who's Coming To My Barbie This Year?

  by Englishman in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ok all you lucky people, this is the big one!.

  every july, around about the time of my birthday, her ladyship and myself host the barbie to end all barbies.

  fun, frolics and fizz are the order of the day, this is the social event, places are more in demand than tickets to watch england play (that's artistic licence btw), even dub in the pub turned up last year.. originally started 10 years ago to get the local pubs regulars together, i usually invite about 40 from the pub, about 15 little & big hooper's, and i am now throwing open an invitation for about 15 - 20 posters from this site to join in the fun.. the event will, weather permitting, take place on sunday july 21. meet at the waverley pub, severn road, weston - super - mare between 12noon and 3pm.

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  individuals wife

  Quick question - are kids welcome or are you trying to keep this adults only? (For the barbie, not the pub obviously.... ) I know a few of us have got offspring and wondered if the invitation was extended to them too or whether babysitters need to found (or simply leave them tied up and gagged in a dark cupboard at home... only joking!)